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My nickname is Dr. Dreamer because first, I am a Doctor, and second, I have always dreamt of a wonderful life, where my spouse, and I would enjoy our children and have a great marriage. Even though my original dream is shattered, as a result of a divorce, I am still dreaming.....I would like to share with you a brief introduction of my story. I got married years ago, and my marriage was pretty good for the first 5 years. After that,


"The Yearning and the Reality"

Dr. Dreamer

the relationship between my ex and me started to deteriorate slightly and steadily. However, things were still reasonable between us, and we had our first child. After the birth of our child, my ex changed a lot, negatively so. This affected our relationship further, and life was getting more difficult.After the birth of our second child, things were getting a lot worse between us. This was the beginning of the end.
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    Thursday, March 29, 2007

    Post-divorce life or Starting Over

    Good evening,

    Dr. Dreamer here: tonight, I am going to talk about post divorce.

    What really happens when the divorce is final?
    All of a sudden, you will find that your life is totally different from what you once knew!
    If you work, you will no longer come home to a full house. If you did not work during the marriage, you will no longer be waiting for your spouse to come home.

    Furthermore, you will not see your kids every day the day you used to whether you are a dad or a mom, as chances are you will end up with joint legal and physical custody of your children. To me, this was the devastating part, for I did not see my children every day, which was something I was used and which was totally indispensable in my life!

    You have to come to grips, preferably before the divorce is finalized, with the fact that you are not going to see your children the way you did prior to that. When you have the children, you will enjoy them in a different way, as you will no longer have the interference of the other parent. The children will be with you 100% of the time during your parenting time, which is wonderful. On the other hand, when the children are not with you, you are going to miss them tremendously!

    In essence, mathematically speaking, this amounts to 50% time with the children, which is what you and your ex spouse had with the children prior to the divorce. This is because when you are still married, you share the time with the kids, so your share is 50%. However, the difference is in the distribution of the time. This is extremely hard, especially at first, but, eventually, you will start accepting it.

    I will fill you in, from personal experience, on the post-divorce stages and the consequences.

    Until then…..Good Night!

    Dr. Dreamer

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